In times of achievement and glory, we can feel on the top of the world, or as if we could tackle anything thrown in our direction. But what happens when we don't achieve what we were hoping for? We feel disappointed in ourselves, regretting those times when we maybe should have pushed harder for what we wanted. Dealing with disappointment won't get any easier if we don't change our mindset. Here are some ways we can change the way we see the feeling of disappointment in order to live more mindfully and confidently.
Take it as a Learning Experience
Life is full of learning experiences. The 'negative' ones seem to occur the most, which puts us off trying new things. Fear of failure prevents us from even giving something a good go before we give up and decide this new path simply isn't for us. The truth is, learning experiences are almost always positive. With every new experience, you take away added value of some kind. Maybe you grew as a person or realised what to do to improve for next time. It's time to turn negativity on its head and appreciate learning for what it is: taking in information to benefit us in future.
What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger
Cliché as it may sound, its message has always been clear and true. As much as a lesson in life might hurt, remember that it did not beat you to the ground. It only sent you swaying and knocked you off your feet. Analyse where things went wrong, or why you might not have achieved your goal this time. In the case of building a career, take heed of the fact that employers like to see you evaluate your personal successes and areas in need of improvement. We all hope that the self-assessment and personal development assignments they ask us to conduct actually have a point to them, so look at this way. Once you've figured out why things didn't go your way, consider how you can better yourself.
Onwards and Upwards
Do yourself a favour and boost your own ego a bit. If you got rejected for a job you really wanted, for example, reassure yourself that they simply didn't see the best of you and that there's a better opportunity along the way. Even if there doesn't seem to be one emerging right off, use this as motivation to work harder for next time and keep searching for the next dream chance.
Don't Dwell On It
Dwelling on things is probably one of the most common ways to fill yourself with doubt. It's also one of the biggest causes of panic attacks and anxiety disorders. If like me, you started putting all of the things you ever did wrong into a cupboard in your mind and filled it so much that it now just won't shut properly, eventually, it will burst open and overwhelm you with poisonous thoughts and self-loathing. So do your best to learn from the experience then set it free and move on.
Give Yourself a Break
I mean it. If you just got the bad news, take some time out for yourself. There is nothing wrong with recuperating, even if it involves a barrel of ice cream and a day of binge-watching wildlife documentaries to make yourself feel better. Consider that maybe you could be feeling overworked. If you're run down, you certainly won't be in the right frame of mind to perform at your best. They don't say 'live a balanced life' for no reason. If you're under constant pressure your quality of work, your personality and your drive will begin to take a downward slope. Just make sure to use resting time wisely. If you're failing in a class, ignoring the mountain of revision won't magic the exam away!
Hopefully, you've discovered some ways to battle the niggling self-doubt and torment that we all feel in times of disappointment. I write regularly about personal development and wellbeing, so have a read through similar posts to find more ways to feel good and achieve great things while doing so.